My Hanai Family
Aloha. I hope you all have been well and that you all had a very Happy Thanksgiving and that life is treating you good.
It has been a very trying time for me and my hanai family this last week. A week ago today my hanai brother, Henry, passed away very unexpectedly. As you may have known he had prostate cancer and his back was out of whack. He had the surgery to correct his back in early September and then last week Tuesday, Nov. 15th had his prostate removed. All was going well with his recovery until Friday. To make a long story short, he had dinner Friday night and the nurse asked him if he wanted anything else to eat. He asked for some ice cream and when the nurse came back he was not breathing and had passed away. The autopsy showed that he had clogged arteries and a heart attack ensued. It wouldn’t have matter if he had the surgeries or not it was inevitable.
Myrna, my hanai mom, took it as well as can be expected. Held up very well as a matter of fact. The last month or so she has been in the hospital 3 times with her COPD. They finally said to us that she needed to go into hospice, not to die per say but they can give her what she needs for the rest of her life to help her and not be sending her to the hospital all the time. She finally agreed to that and we started the in home hospice care. After the news of Henry she was doing real good until Monday night. That night she started having a very hard time breathing and started frothing from her mouth. Hospice said that was because her heart couldn’t keep up with all her bodily fluids. So that night we started her on morphine to get her relaxed and help her breathing. Tuesday afternoon she finally woke up and she was an entirely different person. Was happy, was eating, joking around. It was amazing. She was like her old self. Then she started getting tired after a while and went back to sleep. We didn’t give her any more morphine for a while because she was relaxed and breathing okay. Later that night she started gasping for breath so we continued the morphine. Wednesday morning she passed away.
So our Thanksgiving wasn’t very happy around here. Yes we had the kids over and everyone that has been coming over have been so nice and generous. The food and comfort that everyone as given us has been tremendous. I will never be able to say enough thank you’s to them all. Our family is doing as well as can be expected. We are hoping to have the services for both of them next week Saturday. We are going to have the services at the boat ramp and then scatter their ashes in the ocean as we have done with Joey, Schell and Uncle Biggie.
Everything has been a blur since then. I have taken the week off. We were more prepared for Myrna than we were for Henry. That was a real shock to all of us. But as the days go on and as life continues so must we. We have had so much support from everyone and it really helps. Everyone on Google+, Facebook and Twitter have been so supportive as well. So if I can say anything it’s to make sure every day at the end of the day you make sure you take the time to say I love you to all those close to you and don’t take anything for granted. Life is very short and can be a bitch at times. As for me I’m doing good. So no need to worry on that front. The whole family is well. It’s just very sad time for us and things are going to be so different. But we adjust. We have to. Everyone does.
Hey, it’s only my opinion
A Hui Hou
My dear Thom, sending you lots of love and good thoughts at this very sad time for you and your family. My thoughts are with you.
Sylvia
xoxoxox
Mahalo for your kind words Sylvia. We all appreciate it.
No matter how it happens, fast or slow, expected or unexpected, it’s never easy. I’m glad that you have people around to support you and the family. I’m also glad that you get to be strong for others. Somehow, it makes it easier to cope when you know that the people around need you. I’m so terribly sorry. Love, Larisa xxoo
Larisa Many mahalos my friend; Yeah we have been lucky to have so many caring people around. Makes it a little easier. xoxoxox
Thom-
I wish I had the right words to express my grief for your loss. It is an impossible situation. I know in time, you’ll feel better. I will have a good thought for Myrna and Henry. Find peace, my friend.
Thanks Bud. Your kind words and thoughts mean a great deal to all us. Mahalo.
Just checking in on you. Shame computers don’t come with a way to actually give someone a hug.
Hang in there, my friend. We’ll be here if you need to talk… or just sit quietly.
All is good Hope. I do appreciate your kind words and it is nice to know that you are there anytime I need. You know I’m grateful for the computer to have met so many wonderful people that have become a part of my life.
And believe me I know your hug is there 
Oh,, Tom…I am so very sorry. It’s a blow to lose someone, but two so close together and near the holidays…my heart goes out to you and I am praying for you and your loved ones.
Barbara thank you so much. Your prayers are most welcome and we appreciate that more than any words can say thank you. Mahalo my friend.
My prayers are with you.
I was worried about you.
Hang in there
Thanks Harriet. We are all hanging in there. It’ just things have become so different but we will make it.
Oh Thom, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of 2 dear people in your life. I can only imagine the empty feelings that you all must have. I’m praying for you all for comfort and that the service you have in scattering their ashes will be a wonderful time of remembering what they meant in your lives.
Mahalo Ellen for your prayers and your kind words. It is an empty feeling that at times is very hard to deal with but as you say we will have the memories and that gets you through
I’m so sorry to hear of your sad losses Thom. Having recently lost my Father I know what you’re going through. Please accept my sincere condolences. Much love to you and Reiki blessings. x
Mahalo my dear sweet friend. It means so much to me for you and everyone to take the time.
Me Ke Aloha
Dear Thom, my heartfelt sympathy & deepest condolences on your great loses. May Henry & Myrna rest in peace. You are in my thoughts, my friend. Be strong. Xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Mahalo for your very kind words my dear sweet friend. Much appreciated
xoxox
I have missed you and now I know why you have been silent…I am so very sorry about your losses, I send you my deepest condolences. Big hug, thinking of you.
Mahalo my friend for your very kind words. Yeah there isn’t much that silences me much but this has quite a bit. Be back after this weekend. Services are Saturday. My mom flies in today.
Oh, Thom, while you are being strong and hanging in there, I am crying for you. Know that I am holding you in my heart and prayers. I love you.
Ya old softy Q LOL Thanks and just knowing that you are there for me makes all the difference. MWAH xoxoxox
My Dearest Thom,
I have been away for Thanksgiving and sitting here tonight something told me I should check here – now I know why.
I am so sorry for your huge loss. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Like you said we must go on but it isn’t easy. Know you are being thought of with much love and affection.
Wish I could give you a real hug.
Take care.
xoxoxo
My dear sweet friend…It’s our Karma I tell you and I can’t thank you enough for such kind words. I feel your hug believe me and it makes me fell that much better. Mahalo and I do hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving and that you are doing well yourself
Me Ke Aloha
My dearest Thom…
You’ve continued to be in my thoughts for some time now, wondering how you’ve been doing and your new job and all, and Bud and I just got back from a holiday vacation only to log in to my google dashboard reader to find you have lost a loving family member. [While we were gone we too lost an ex-sister in law which I still think of her as a huge part of our family]. It’s always a shock to be left behind and lose one so near, even tho at times we are ‘prepared’ for death. It takes so much from us; yet the good, happy and wonderful memories will linger forever.
You have my deepest, sincerest, thoughts and prayers.
Thank you HA…you have been such a great friend and support for me for so long now and I will cherish that forever. Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope you and Bud are well. Me Ke Aloha
Wow, brother. So sorry. I just found this now. My sympathies and best thoughts to you and your family.
Mahalo my friend. It was difficult. Still is in some respects but time does heal. Much appreciated.
Oh man Thom!
My heart aches for you. I’ve been in over my head since the end of October and am totally behind . I’m so sorry I missed this.
Please accept my condolences and know that you are always some place in ky thoughts and are always in my heart. Hugs and prayers to you and your family.
Ria
No worries my friend. Mahalo for your kind words. Much appreciated
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